Brave Soul, let's have a heart-to-heart about something that's been gnawing at you, something you've been afraid to voice out loud: imposter syndrome at work. You know, that nagging feeling that you're a fraud, that you don't deserve your successes, that any minute now, someone will figure out you're not as competent as they think you are.
Sound familiar? Well, pull up a chair, grab your favorite mug of coffee, and let me tell you a story. It is a story of my 33-year journey through the corporate jungle, battling imposter syndrome at every turn. It's a tale of triumphs and setbacks, of being cut down and rising up, of learning to embrace my worth in a world that often seemed determined to diminish it.
The Tall Poppy Syndrome: When Success Becomes Your Enemy
Have you ever heard of the Tall Poppy Syndrome? It's this nasty little phenomenon where successful people – often women – are cut down, just like tall poppies in a field. And let me tell you, Brave Soul, I've been that tall poppy more times than I care to count.
In my 33 years of corporate life, I've encountered it all:
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Bullying that made me question my every move
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Dismissal of achievements that I'd worked my tail off for
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Being left out or ignored, like I was invisible
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Undermined at every turn, my ideas were stolen or belittled
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Watching others take credit for my hard work
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Disparaging comments and gossip that cut deep
And here's the kicker: I was told I was "too aggressive" when I spoke in the same language as my male peers. When they used those exact words? Oh, they were just being "assertive." Can you feel my eye roll from here?
The Hidden Costs of Imposter Syndrome at Work
Brave Soul, let me be real with you. This constant battle with imposter syndrome at work? It takes a toll. Here's how it affected me:
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My self-confidence took a nosedive
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Negative self-talk became my constant companion
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I felt isolated like I was the only one struggling
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My mental health suffered – big-time
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Stress levels? Through the roof
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It contributed to a massive burnout
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I started downplaying or not sharing my achievements at all
Sound familiar? If you're nodding along, know that you're not alone. Imposter syndrome in the workplace is more common than you might think, especially among high-achieving women.
Why Is Imposter Syndrome Still Running Rampant?
Now, you might be wondering, "Why is this still happening in 2024?" Well, Brave Soul, I've got some thoughts on that:
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Sexism and misogyny: Yep, they're still alive and kicking
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Ageism: Because apparently, wisdom and experience are overrated
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Toxic workplace cultures: When cutting others down is the norm
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Jealousy and envy: Because some people can't stand to see others shine
The Gaslighting Cherry on Top
Want to know the worst part? When I finally gathered the courage to speak up about my experiences, guess what happened?
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I was told I was being "emotional" (insert eye roll here)
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They said I was the one with the problem
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And the cherry on top? They gave me more work!
Talk about adding insult to injury!
When Imposter Syndrome Follows You Home
Brave Soul, let me tell you something that might surprise you: imposter syndrome doesn't clock out when you leave the office. It follows you home, seeping into your personal life like an unwelcome house guest.
I've been labeled a workaholic, accused of caring only about my job. And do you know who led that charge? My own mother and former friends. Ouch.
Breaking Free: How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome
Now, I know what you're thinking. "This all sounds hopeless! How do I deal with imposter syndrome at work?" Well, Brave Soul, I've got some battle-tested strategies for you:
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Recognize the beast: The first step in overcoming imposter syndrome is acknowledging it. Call it out for what it is.
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Reframe your thoughts: When that negative self-talk starts, challenge it. Would you speak to your best friend that way? No? Then don't speak to yourself that way either.
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Document your successes: Keep a "brag file" of your achievements, big and small. When imposter syndrome strikes, review it.
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Embrace your uniqueness: Your diverse experiences and perspectives are your superpower. Own them!
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Find your tribe: Surround yourself with supportive colleagues and mentors who lift you up.
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Remember a previous experience when you stood in your power: Borrow and lean into that. Sometimes, acting confident can help you feel confident. Stand tall, speak up, and own your space.
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Seek professional help: There's no shame in talking to a therapist or coach to work through these feelings.
Combat Imposter Syndrome: Your Action Plan
Ready to kick imposter syndrome to the curb? Here's your action plan:
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Identify your triggers: What situations make you feel like an imposter? Awareness is the first step.
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Challenge your inner critic: When that voice pipes up, ask yourself, "Is this thought really true?"
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Celebrate your wins: No matter how small, acknowledge your successes. You've earned them!
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Share your feelings: Talk to trusted colleagues or mentors. You'll likely find you're not alone.
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Keep learning: Continuous growth can help boost your confidence and combat feelings of inadequacy.
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Practice self-compassion: Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend facing the same challenges.
A Final Word to My Brave Souls
Listen up, Brave Soul. Dealing with imposter syndrome at work is challenging. It's a journey, not a destination. There will be good days and bad days. But remember this: you are not an imposter. You are talented, capable, and deserving of your success.
Your achievements? You earned them. Your ideas? They're valuable. Your voice? It deserves to be heard.
So, the next time imposter syndrome tries to creep in, stand tall. Remember all you've overcome. Remember your worth. And remember this conversation we've had over our virtual coffee.
You've got this, Brave Soul. Now go out there and show the world what you're made of!
Check out my blog "Are You a Good Girl? Good Girl Syndrome" as the Good Girl Syndrome can contribute to Imposter Syndrome.
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